A LETTER TO COUPLES

why is it that our society is always eager to say the worst of women when they are guilty of having extra marital affairs but when a man does the same, people just turn their heads and say he is just a man. I am not excusing the fact that it is morally wrong or that they are justified for such acts but lets analize it properly...why and what are the reasons why they are going outside or seeking attention outside..Is it that their husbands are neglecting them or are these the signs of end times?....I had a chat with a friend of mine on this issue and she had a lot to say concerning this topic. Lets start from the very beginning of mankind, a woman was created from the rib of a man, close to the heart.It simply means that a woman is a softer man, that craves a lot of attention and care. There are little things men take for granted that mean a lot to that woman we call our wives or partners. They like us(men) to take note of very little things about them of which while we were dating we always noticed, but give a man 1year after marriage, we tend to take these things for granted. There was a day my girlfriend went and made her hair and i came in tired and weak and i didnt take note of it, she made a big deal of it and i had to beg her for a whole week to make up for it.As a man ask yourself one thing, when was the last time you bought her her favourite snack, or that little thing she loves, when was the last time u guys had dinner outside the house, when was the last time you guys went out and had fun, when was the last time you paid her a compliment on how sexy she looks or something close to that...the list can go on and on...all they are trying to say is we should make an effort to do some of those things we used to do towards them while we were dating...We all know the economy leaves us drained after a hard days work but lets take some time out for our women. Lets try as men to rekindle that old flame we shared when we were still dating..And women, this is not an excuse for lowering yourself and please talk about it when your man lacks or there is something missing or you want some more attention from the menfolk. Lets try and bring back our lost ethics and values...lets make this world a better place...TAKE TIME OUT FOR OUR WOMEN, THEY NEED OUR ATTENTION

RAPE (lets join hands and fight this together)

Any time the word comes to mind the first thing that flashes through my thoughts is the sight of a cock chasing a hen...funny right but it sometimes bother me when humans indulge in such acts...
Rape from the dictionary means: forcing someone to have sex when they are unwilling, using violence or threatening beheviour...there are times when i am in the mood for sex and my girfriend is not in the mood but she allows me to have my way, i find out its not the same as when it is mutual....then think about having your way with someone that doesnt want you to touch her or want it from you...So many people get raped daily but nothing is done to stop it or most times the victims keep it to themselves for fear or are too ashamed to let the world know about it because of the shameful stigma attached to rape victims. what is the Government doing to assist these victims mentally or otherwise, when will we stop this barbaric act. We hear stories everyday about kids raped by their parents, family or by hoodlums and all the Government does is to put them behind bars. What have they done to help these victims, most of them are mentally distabilized and this affects them later in life. The essence of this publication is to rally amongst ourselves to do something about this issue. We cant keep reading stories and just sigh about it, we have to join hands and do something to stop this act.... personally i did try to stop the act and below is a picture of myself haven stopped some boys from rapping a girl under the influence of alcohol

i got beat up for being a hero, for standing for what is right but i am not stopping there. We have to stop talking about it and start acting on it...IT COULD BE SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOU WHO BECOMES THE NEXT VICTIM

SEGREGATION

When i hear this word (segregation), i remember the sayings of Marthin Luther King " i believe that one day blacks and white will stand together as brothers" if a BLACK man can have such a dream, i wonder why we shoud segregate ourselves not cos of colour but because we are from different tribes in th same country. This story is a true story of a young man who found love in the northern part of Nigeria but can not marry the girl he loves because he is from Edo state to be precise.
Ehi is a young man, a grad of Computer science that fell inlove with a girl from Igala, funny enough, he is a muslim and he would have understood if Aisha's father objected based on the fact that they had different religions. Unknown to both lovers, aisha's father has a dislike for people from Edo state based on some story in the past, but as we speak Ehi is suffering because one Edo person did something in the past and he is now been victimized because he is from that state. what i am trying to bring out is simply thus, must this innocent young man suffer for what another person did, does it mean because we are from different ethnic background we cant love freely...We always preach about the unity of the nation but still we have resevation on a sin someone else commited...whta do you think Ehi should do because as i write this, he is disraught and angry...and Aisha has no say in it because she is a girl. Do we have to give up on love based on ethnicity or should we fight for what we believe in...Ehi and Aisha need your comments and advice on what step to take for this is devastating to them.
As far as am concerned, this is an injustice to this poor lovers cos Ehi has done nothing wrong but love who he feels makes him happy butis now punished for what he doesnt know of or better still who he doesnt know...
                                   IS IT RIGHT TO SUFFER THE SINS OF OTHERS

SEX

  sex is a topic that should be taken seriously because it is the number one and most important spice in any relationship be it marriage or dating...we find that today in most marriages,sex is now a routine, some couples even have a calender date for having sex...is that not madness, i dont even want to call it sex because it makes it sound casual..it should be called love making..its supposed to be that special thing shared btw two people, a sort of deep communication btw two souls and their body interpreting how and what they both feel not the i have to do it because its my obligation in bed or to your partner... once that is the motive behind it then trust me your relationship is on verge of a collapse...this is how it should be....sex btw a couple should be an indescribable experience, a fantastic adventure, a rich fulfillment that you both desire to share freely, generously and and totally.... a sexual experience with an over whelming spirit of sensitivity.... Most couples tend to lose this because they have lost that sense of fun, bring back some excitement into it, talk about it... ask your partner what he/she wants...put some PLAY back in your sex life..                                   10 THINGS A MAN SHOULD AVOID1. Never embarass your woman with crude uncouth remarks2. Never criticize her in front of others3. Never remind her of her past mistakes4. Never deluge her with I TOLD YOU SO'S5. Never compare her with another woman especially your EX6. Never betray her7. Never shut her up in a controversial discussion8. Never downgrade her personal achievements9. Never make her feel unnecessary or unneeded10. And Finally, Never go to sleep without a good night kiss, it means the world to themif you follow these instructions, you will find that women are very complicated but easy to manage....Till next time i bid u all the best of them month and have a wonderful sex lifejamal

marriage ( is it worth it)

 

when is the right age for marriage that is the question i ask myself, some say early marriage is the best and some say both parties have to be matured enough to handle issues...so i ask which is best...early marriage or wait till one is matured enough..come to think of it, does AGE mean MATURED.....I had this talk on marriage with a friend of mine, who is getting married soon and she said to her their are three things she saw in her man, 1. the right person, 2. the one you love, 3. the one you marry and it got me thinking....even the ones in marriage are seeking attention outside their marriages...You have the men having affairs like it dont mean anything and even the women now are looking for men to make them feel complete or have that sense of womanhood...the question now is why go through all the stress of printing cards, planning an event, spending so much and still be unhappy....is it that the essence of marriage has lost its values or that marriage is not just enough.....I do hope to get married some day but with the present trend i often wonder....DO I HAVE TO SUBJECT MYSELF TO ALL THIS HASTLE CALLED MARRIAGE TO END UP DIVORCING AGAIN

        this pic is a picture of two people hooking up and looking so happy that this day has finally come to pass but do you think they are doing this for the right reasons......some people marry for convenience sake...like someone said look for a man that will take care of you and your kids...whatever happened to marry the love of your life or is LOVE NOT ENOUGH anymore..this and more are the question i ask myself and time keeps ticking...you have the pressure from parents about TRIBAL issues and RELIGION,the list goes on......SO FINALLY I ASK IS MARRIAGE WORTH IT

            

men are romantic in their own weird man-way

The truth is, men convey their feelings in their wierd man-ways. women prefer love to be shown romantically,they want to feel all the frills and seduction, as a result, they miss all the tangible stuffs that a practical minded guy is prone to do. lets look at some examples...men are very lousy when it comes to picking out gifts, a girl will rather expect to get a gift that will make her squeal with joy but a man will rather get a functional item instead of a romantic one. its just his way of wanting to meet your needs and to make life easier which is loving and caring but least sexy and romantic...When it comes to men and how they show affection to their women, 80% will surely fail but that does not mean they dont love you, its just that they show it in a wierd man-way...so if you have one of those rare ones that are in touch with their feminine side, dont lose him for there are vultures out there ready to snatch him off you

parenting....what does is really mean

Parenting....what does it really mean,its not just having kids that qualifies us as a parent but what and how we groom them. some people think its all about the bills but trust me, you are so wrong...lets start with this little question first then we come back for more....
1.what makes one a good parent
2. if u have kids already, are u a good parent and why